AM I SELFISH? BLOG # 2222;FRI FEB O7,2020

THE COMEBACK:

"I WON’T PLAY THAT GAME."

"THAT’S OK. IT’S NOT FOR CHEATERS." 

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THE MESSAGE:

Extremely selfish individuals are uncaring and have no sympathy for the needs of others. The more love and reward they are shown makes it easier for them to feed off the kindness. They  can appear charming and caring at first but their behaviour changes the moment they don’t get their own way.

TONY TODAY:

CHARACTERISTICS OF SELFISH PEOPLE

MANIPULATION

The manipulator feeds on another person’s self-esteem. It is obvious that one cannot win by arguing with this individual. If you feel like you are being used, then you probably are. The skilled manipulator will try to steer behaviours for their benefit. Selfishness is a learned behaviour from childhood environments that must be left behind as children age and mature. Children are supposed to be selfish up to a point.

One must understand their childhood behaviours of self love and self care; however, as parents we must  ensure that they learn to transition to caring for others.

GIVING AND SHARING DO NOT COME EASILY.

THE REAL ME

Selfish people pretend to be caring. They might say the right things but their actions generally indicate that they only do things for others when it comes back to benefit them. It’s not in their nature to go out and give out of genuine love. 

LOOK WHAT I GAVE
TO CHARITY

They will make sure they publicize how wonderful they’ve been. 

The easiest way to help readjust their behaviour is to take away their focus. Do not praise the behaviour. It’s best to just allow the act itself to go unnoticed.

EXPECTATIONS OF OTHERS TO DO THINGS FOR THEM.

A selfish person has high expectations of what they need. Their lives are focused on what others think of them and can do for them. They expect the world to revolve around their needs and desires. They constantly ask for favours, 

Don’t give into their demands. Beware of the time you spend and give to this type of person.

SELF-CENTERED AND CONCEITED.

Narcissism and selfishness derive from a lack of self-worth and an attention seeking behaviour. This type of personality will brag and make everything about them seem relevant. They must put themselves ahead by putting another person down.

The focus is mostly on themselves. Truly selfish individuals are seldom any of the following:

• altruistic 
• considerate
• generous
• magnanimous
• benevolent
• philanthropic

PLOTTING AND SCHEMING


This arises from a fear of losing control. The lack of control scares them. A selfish person will continue doing things behind your back and plotting a different angle to suit themselves. They need to always be in the forefront.

The best way to deal with this type of behaviour is to show them who is really in charge through the use of kindness. If that doesn’t work withdraw and let them go. They cannot see your point of view.

THE MUSIC:

THE QUESTION:

Are you seen as a plotter or schemer?





THE LEMON:

Awarded to: Justin for bustin' balls. It may be rude but it’s Trued...o.

THE QUOTE:

"Every man must decide whether he will walk in the light of creative altruism or in the darkness of destructive selfishness."Martin Luther King, Jr.

THE CLIP: