THE MESSAGE:
Frustration is a variable feeling of dissatisfaction that can range from minor irritations to serious lifetime problems. In the case of the latter, it is often accompanied by anxiety or depression, resulting from unfulfilled needs or unresolved problems. Minor causes of frustration are a common part of our daily lives that most of us can control and resolve.
A typical example of minor frustration for myself arises invariably when I get behind the wheel of my car in the city. I do not try to excuse this behaviour and have vowed several times to correct it; however, it continues to haunt me.
I could go on and cite further examples such as the Blue Jays' incompetent manager, terrible referees and umpires, faulty equipment, poor service, bad movies, rap music and long lineups.
In most cases for me, frustrations are minor and caused by a lack of patience or intolerance. Thank God I recover from them fairly quickly without serious damage and with the assistance of others who are more blessed than myself.
THE BLURB:
THE BLURB:
- ANGER: If the source of the frustration is too powerful, it can take the form of aggression often redirected toward a more available target. An angry person often acts impulsively without restraint. and subsequent behaviours become destructive.
- ABANDONING GOALS: is another form of giving in to frustration. When repeatedly frustrated, people can drop out of school, quit jobs, or relocate. Giving up on all of one's goals maybe an effort to avoid the frustration of trying to reach them.
- LOSS OF CONFIDENCE: is often a side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem can result in the inability to cope with challenges.
- STRESS: is the toll taken on our body and mind as we attempt to adjust to the frustrations of a continually changing environment. Extreme, or prolonged frustration and stress can generate distress signals often in the form of: irritability, anger, fatigue, constant anxiety, headaches, depression, hypertension, ulcers, or heart attacks.
- DEPRESSION: Depression can affect almost every aspect of your life. It affects people of all ages, income, race, and cultures. Excessive depression can have lasting affects on eating and sleeping as well as one's perceptions and interactions with others.
- OTHER REACTIONS: Abuse of drugs or alcohol is self-destructive and usually a futile attempt at dealing with frustration. This can include eating and weight problems. Whenever the immediate effects of the addictive behaviour wear off, users find themselves back in the same frustrating situation. Thus the addiction continues.
- SUICIDE: Below are some examples of depression leading to the destruction of the life of an individual.
AARON DRIVER Lately of Strathroy, Ontario
His mother died of brain cancer when he was seven; he was estranged from his father; and his infant son died during delivery.
He turned to chemical dependancy, eventually found Islam and was radicalized to the 'cause' probably in search of the promise of a better, more rewarding life. 
A detonator made by terror suspect, Aaron Driver, exploded inside a taxi cab but the bomb did not. Aaron exited the taxi and tried to detonate a second device shouting “Alluah Akbar” before he was shot and killed.
Police believe the bomb was built in his sister’s home using easily accessible materials and was carried inside a backpack. Later more explosive materials were found inside the Strathroy, Ont., house. The timely interruption of Aaron's 'Jihad' and his subsequent killing by police, probably saved many other lives.
ALETHA MEYER PINNOW of Duluth Minn.
Aletha was 31, when she died from depression and suicide on February 20, 2016.
Eleni Pinnow after losing her sister has this to say, “Unfortunately, a battle with depression made her innate glow invisible to her and she could not see how desperately loved and valued she was."
The Pinnows hope their loss will help generate a community-wide discussion about mental health. They want “to pull the suffocating demon of depression and suicide into the bright light of day” and ask the public to break the “destructive silence and stigma” that surrounds mental illness and suicide.
CODY GLODE of Nova Scotia
Cody was a hard charging, mixed martial arts athlete, and a fire fighter with Truro fire services. But there was one battle that was too much for the young man. He was defeated by Depression which led to his suicide.He lost his battle with depression on March 1 when he took his own life. His mother, Lisa, said Cody had been battling depression since he was 12 years old. But he seemed to handle it well.
Cody and his mother first tried to get help through a mental health crisis line. A day later, the service called back and suggested Cody go see his family doctor. At his doctor's appointment, Cody was told he needed to wait another two months to see a psychiatrist.
The 20-year-old was the youngest firefighter in the history of Truro’s fire service and also the first aboriginal firefighter. More than 800 people from the communities of Millbrook and Truro attended his funeral.
Lisa and his father, Matthew, have been overwhelmed by the number of people approaching them and sharing stories of how Cody impacted their lives. “Hearing all these stories from people about how he helped them, talked to them and listened, or how he spent extra time with their little kids at the gym. He just always had time for others,” said Lisa.
Cody's parents are hoping people will learn from their son’s story and realize mental illness can affect anyone, and that seeking help is not a sign of weakness, but of strength.
THE QUESTION:
How can one feel more positive when feeling low and anxious?
THE ANSWER:
From
Prof.ThomasA.Richards
Psychologist:
How to cope: "Be more
active, face your fears,
and don't drink too
much alcohol."
- Being more active means not withdrawing from life. Keep seeing your friends. Keep your CV up-to-date. Don't ignore the bills – try to keep paying them. If you have more time because you're not at work, take up some form of exercise, as it can improve your mood if you're feeling low.
- Facing your fears means not avoiding things you find difficult. For example, if it looks like you're going into debt, get advice on how to prioritise your debts. When people feel anxious, they sometimes avoid talking to others. Some people can lose their confidence about driving or travelling. If this starts to happen, facing up to these situations will generally make them easier.
- For some people, alcohol can become a problem. You may drink more than usual as a way of dealing with or hiding your emotions, or just to fill time. But alcohol won't help you deal with your problems and could add to your stress. Get help on how to cope with alcohol.
THE LEMON:
To all Toronto pedestrians who ignore the rules for crossing an intersection safely.....OOPS there I go again!
THE QUOTE:
"When you reach the end of your rope, tie a knot in it and hang on."-Franklin D. Roosevelt
THE CLIP:
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