THE MESSAGE:
As a teacher of Health Education for many years and an Instructor / Counsellor at the Ontario Leadership Centre, I was exposed to curricula that included: Discipline, Trial and Error Learning, Making Free Choices, Values Education, The Importance of Trust and Leadership Skill Development. What follows is content that I hold to be valuable insight into responsible parenting.
Positive discipline teaches and guides children and becomes a key component in establishing a comforting and productive family environment. It helps your child grow up to be a happy, caring person who has: self-esteem, respect for others and some tools that are helpful in dealing with the many challenges encountered in living in a complicated world.
Throughout the process of providing effective discipline and guidance in early childhood it is crucial for parents to know these rules.
1. Provide appropriate rewards or punishments for choices made.
5. Develop trust by being honest with your child and keeping promises made.
6. Actively listen when your child talks.
AS THE CHILD MATURES INTO THE PRE TEEN AND TEENAGE YEARS
Praise the teen for developing a strong work ethic in his or her efforts to set goals.
> new behaviour problems at home or school,
> new learning problems,
> continuous angry outbursts or tantrums,
> changes in usual social activity or play with other children,
> frequent nightmares or problems sleeping,
> ongoing physical problems, such as stomach upset, headaches,
> ongoing eating problems; sudden weight gain or loss,
> feeling very anxious or afraid,
> being sad or depressed,
> expressing hopelessness about life or the future,
> increased risk-taking,
> using alcohol, street drugs, or unprescribed medications, or
> talking about suicide, or self-harm.
2. Avoid physical punishment
3. Have respect for your child’s thoughts and feelings.
3. Have respect for your child’s thoughts and feelings.
4. Enjoy and encourage your child’s ideas and contributions.
5. Develop trust by being honest with your child and keeping promises made.
6. Actively listen when your child talks.
7. Monitor their use of electronic devices.
8. Provide insight into the process involved in trial and error learning.
CHILDREN BENEFIT FROM FREELY MADE AGE-APPROPRIATE CHOICES. A PARENT SHOULD NEVER ALLOW CHILDREN TO MAKE CHOICES THAT ARE BEYOND A CHILD'S MATURITY LEVEL. CHOICES THAT WOULD EXPOSE THE CHILD TO PERMANENT HARM. A CHILD'S CHOICE SHOULD NEVER BE PERMITTED TO AFFECT OTHER FAMILY MEMBERS.
9. Teach respect for others.
10. Spend quality time with your child daily.
AS THE CHILD MATURES INTO THE PRE TEEN AND TEENAGE YEARS
Set limits and boundaries that are necessary for the teens safety and responsibility. Setting limits for your teenager is very important because it gives your teen structure and boundaries. When you do these things, your teen will grow up with good morals and values and pass on those morals on to their children. Here is how you can imprint this on to your teenager.
- Set up family meetings and give your teen a chance to voice opinions about certain issues and share their feelings.
- Be a parent that is not too strict and not too easy but somewhere in the middle. Teach your teen how to think and don't tell them what to think.
- Inspire your teen to always use their own good judgment. Remember, you can't force your teen to do anything.
Explain the difference between respect and blind obedience.
Teach the benefits of goal setting and planning in pre teens by using the 6 point system that follows.
- Decide on the long term goal. Think about its purpose and value.
- Decide on the steps you will take to achieve it.
- Decide on barriers to the goal and plan on how to remove them.
- Analyze your success and failure continually.
- Write down activities to help achieve the goal.
- Set intermediate goals and deadlines to achieve them
Praise the teen for developing a strong work ethic in his or her efforts to set goals.
Talk to teens about their daily experiences at school.
Get to know your teens' friends.
Do not underestimate the effects of world disasters and disorders on your teen. They can make it harder to deal with other difficult or traumatic situations such as illness or death in the family, divorce, a move to a new town or school. If this is the case, your child may need extra support and attention. Problems may manifest themselves as follows:
> new learning problems,
> continuous angry outbursts or tantrums,
> changes in usual social activity or play with other children,
> frequent nightmares or problems sleeping,
> ongoing physical problems, such as stomach upset, headaches,
> ongoing eating problems; sudden weight gain or loss,
> feeling very anxious or afraid,
> being sad or depressed,
> expressing hopelessness about life or the future,
> increased risk-taking,
> using alcohol, street drugs, or unprescribed medications, or
> talking about suicide, or self-harm.
THE QUESTION:
SHOULD A FAMILY BE A DEMOCRACY?
THE LEMON: to Jenny McCarthy
McCarthy has written books about parenting, and has become an activist promoting research into environmental causes and alternative medical treatments for autism. She has made unsubstantiated claims that vaccines cause autism.
THE QUOTE:
Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.- Lou Holtz
THE CLIP:
SHOULD A FAMILY BE A DEMOCRACY?
THE LEMON: to Jenny McCarthy
McCarthy has written books about parenting, and has become an activist promoting research into environmental causes and alternative medical treatments for autism. She has made unsubstantiated claims that vaccines cause autism.
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| HERE'S JENNY! |
THE QUOTE:
Life is ten percent what happens to you and ninety percent how you respond to it.- Lou Holtz
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