ANTHONY RANTS:

 ROLE MODELS ARE CRUCIAL

 

When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you hang my 
first painting on the refrigerator, and I immediately 
wanted to paint another one. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you feed a 
stray cat, and I learned that it was good to be kind 
to animals. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make my
favorite cake for me, and I learned that the little 
things can be the special things in life. 


When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you make a 
meal and take it to a friend who was sick, and I 
learned that we all have to help take care of each other. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I saw you take care 
of our house and everyone in it, and I learned we have 
to take care of what we are given. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I saw how you 
handled your responsibilities, even when you didn't 
feel well, and I learned that I would have to be 
responsible when I grow up. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I saw tears come 
from your eyes, and I learned that sometimes things 
hurt, but it's all right to cry. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I saw that you 
cared, and I wanted to be everything that I could be. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I learned most of 
life's lessons that I need to know to be a good and 
productive person when I grow up. 



When you thought I wasn't looking I looked at you and 
wanted to say,’ “Thanks for all the things I saw when 
you thought I wasn't looking.” AUTHOR UNKNOWN

PARENTING AFTER SEPARATION

The process of ending a relationship is a challenging one. It can mean:

•      Developing new parenting arrangements

•      Helping children make a positive adjustment

•      Dealing with your own emotions

•     Making legal decisions in the best interests of the children

STAGES A CHILD MAY GO THROUGH AFTER PARENTS SEPARATE (THE ORDER MAY VARY)

Denial. Mom and Dad will get back together again.

Anger. You let me down. If you really loved me, you would stay together.

Bargaining. If I am really good, maybe you will get back together again.

Depression. I feel empty inside and nothing can make it go away.

Acceptance. Mom and Dad are not going to get back together.

WHAT A CHILD NEEDS TO KNOW

Mom and Dad will continue to love me.

Mom and Dad will stop fighting.

Both Mom and Dad will be here in my life.

HOW A CHILD MAY REACT

•    Pre-schoolers focus on security.

•    Elementary school children show depression and/or anger

•    Junior high school students ask why, what is going on?

•    High school teens question relationships & commitment.

REFERNCE: THE ATTORNEY GENERAL FOR BC